Me time!

Does a mother ever really get this? Like REALLY get this? The free time to herself that she so longs for and so bloody well deserves! I don’t think so.

We can all take an hour off to go get our nails done or get our hair done (if your lucky). Or go shopping or to the cinema. But do you really switch off? Can you forget all the crap that’s been going on, all the dirty washing, and drying that needs to be done. The cooking and cleaning that awaits you when you return? You can? Well I can’t and I’m jealous of you! How do you do it? Tell me, what’s your secret? (Alcohol? Drugs?)

 I want to switch off and I wish I could. But I find it very hard. I just cant do it completely. I switch off to a certain extent obviously but they are always there in the back of my mind. Things I need to do, dinners I have to cook. I leave my husband lists for absolutely everything. He’s well able, don’t get me wrong, but I don’t want him to miss anything. Wow I’m just seeing how neurotic I sound..Maybe I am…a teeny bit!

I do see myself as one of those moms, who feels like a trip to Tesco on my own without the kids, is like a mini holiday! I could spend hours (and €) in there walking/skiping around at a snails pace. Checking out every item. Looking at bargains that i usually am flying past. Soaking up the fredom. Smiling…YES smiling at people. Even chit chatting with the cashier and making jokes! Oh how good it is to laugh! (with a grown up).

This even lasts in the car. I put on the radio, blast the music like I’m 18 again! Then as soon as my key is in the front door..the madness begins again! Only now I’ve a load of shopping to put away and all the stuff I left has piled up and the kids are fighting, and they are hungry! 

You know, of course im gonna take the chance to have that ME time. Anytime I can get it. And no matter what it is and no matter for how long, IT’S MINE! It’s precious. It’s so nice to be alone so you can hear yourself think and just be alone with your thoughts.

Be good to yourselves mammys! Take a break and feel good about it. Don’t feel guilty about it. You need to be refreshed so you can mind your children and give them your best. 

So if you can escape for an hour to get your nails done…or have a glass of wine with a friend…DO IT! Don’t even think twice. In fact RUN! RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN…

Love

Melissa 

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Yes. Yes I would like some wine please

Is it just me? Or does anyone else count down to the time that they can have a wine or two..or three! For me it’s just weekends but I can tell you very truthfully that I really look forward to that time. That me time. Hubby takes over for the night and I can relax. Well..to a certain extent anyway.

Ya see, you need that time. Just to unwind. Even one glass of wine. It has to be done. I think it’s important and good for your health. If like me, you don’t get to go out that much, then these times are very precious. And I’m not talking about getting drunk here.. (perish the thought..) just a few delicious glasses of a fine pinot noir. It’s not too much to ask is it?

Especially if you’ve have a really hard day/week. It’s like a little treat from me to me…and I bloody well deserve it! And look let’s face it, when you have kids, you need that little bit of escapism. And it’s ok to enjoy it. To relax and unwind. I think sometimes as parents we don’t give ourselves a break. And you do need that break,  whatever it may be…

So have a glass of wine…have it in the bath, in the kitchen with your meal, in front of the TV, in the shed if ya have to! But ENJOY it. I know I will..

Love 

Melissa