Sleep Training 

We all know it has to be done. But who would ever in their right mind want to do it! It’s soul destroying. It’s hard. It’s heart breaking. It’s time consuming. But you gotta do it if you ever want to sleep again. It’s better for your child and it’s better for everyone’s general health!

I tried ALL the different ways. Believe me, I’ve had 3 boys who all at some stage were early risers, terrible napper’s and did not know how to go to sleep by themselves. Don’t get me wrong, it wasn’t their fault. It was mine. I gave them bad habits, I didn’t really know it at the time, but I did. And trying to fix it was awful.

This is what I have tried at some stage over the past few years..

  • Pick up/put down method. (Never worked for me. Made them more hysterical)
  • Just put them down and leave the room (only ever worked on Ollie temporarily)
  • Cry it out. (I have never really done this. I did try a few times but just didn’t have the heart for it)
  • Walk in/settle/walk out (once settled you walk out and wait for 5 mins. If you have to go back in, when you come out you wait 10 mins, next time wait for 15 mins. You get the idea..Never worked for me)
  • Gradual retreat  (only thing that worked for me! It’s the longest method but very effective) HORAY!

James my first born started waking early at 5 months old. At 5am. Every morning! Tried all the above training methods but in the end, it was the gradual retreat thing I had to do. Where you put him down to go to sleep and step away but stay in the room. After every 3 days or so your step back would be closer to the door. Until a million years later you are eventually out the door. Now it did work to be fair. But it was exhausting. And I was pregnant!

Caelan my second born ended up the same but I have no recollection of how I fixed it! That will tell you how tired I most certainly was. There is only 16 months between them! He wasn’t as bad a sleeper as James as I recall. I was adamant I wouldn’t make the same mistakes with him as I did on james. (Lets take a moment to laugh at that!)

And now Ollie. He’s 9 months old and I really feel it’s only now we are getting somewhere. Again I’ve done all the above but it was the gradual thing I’ve ended up doing and it seems to be working. Slowly. His wake ups are better. He can settle himself without me and his naps are better. We still have bad days but that’s life isn’t it? 

My one bit of advice for anyone who is pregnant or maybe on their first baby is this..now this is solid gold info here…go write it down if you have to..I wish I did this from the VERY BEGINNING! And it’s very simple…just put the baby down for all naps and bedtime DROWSY BUT AWAKE. 

For the love of God, just do that and baby won’t know any difference and will always happily go to sleep like that! Don’t do what I did. Probably what a lot of you did too! (I know I’m not alone on this!) And save yourself the heartache, the tears and the sleep deprivison.

Anyone who is doing sleep training at the moment, I wish you the very best! Keep with it. Have patience. Persevere and you will be so happy when you come out the end of it. And so will your baby!!

Fingers crossed. 

Love 

Melissa 

Warrior Woman Mammy

Being pregnant 

I LOVED being pregnant! Yes I got swollen ankles, back ache and heartburn and all the rest but I loved it. To be fair all I did was eat and I thought it was grand. I didnt worry about weight. Sure I could lose all that afterwards couldn’t I? I was very lucky as I didn’t suffer from morning sickness at all. But looking back now I was just being a glutton! But it was my first child so I was allowed ok!

But towards the end I was huge. Every part of me was swollen. Even my ear lobes! I gave a whole new meaning to the word “waddle”. People used ask “are you sure there is only 1 baby in there?” I wanted to punch them in the face..

It was really only after my lil guy was born that I realised how big I’d actually had gotten. I was still wearing maternity clothes weeks after, as I refused to buy big clothes. I didn’t feel like myself at all and knew I’d have to lose the weight. Which I did slowly. Not all of it but some.

Then 7 months later, we decide “feck it let’s go again!”. This is fantastic. He’ll have a little brother or sister to play with.We had so much love to give and thought we would actually burst with how much we had for our little button. So naturally it was a super idea. Naturally. ..

I vowed this pregnancy would be different. I wouldn’t eat like a hound. I’d be healthy and have loads of salads and not gorge on chocolate…but is that what I did?  Ehhhh no. You guessed it. I ate my way through that pregnancy as well! Again only afterwards when I saw a picture of me holding my newborn did I get the shock of my life. I was massive! 

But to make a long story even longer…I did lose all the weight, and then some! I was gorgeous again! Well, slimmer anyway.

Now on my third pregnancy I didn’t go too mad. Yes I was big but hey, I make big babies! My husband is 6’5 and a tank, so my boys are the same. AND I lost all the baby weight from that one too! 
So my advice to all you lovely pregnant ladies is…don’t sweat it if you put on a few pounds/stones. It’s all part of it. Enjoy being pregnant. Try not to be a glutton. But you do need to treat yourself because it can be tough and scary and exhausting being pregnant. 

You will have enough ailments to deal with. All the not so lovely things that happen to a woman when she is expecting. Food is really all you have to enjoy. So do so..but wisely.

Love

Melissa